Suffering

Suffering begins when we dwell in pain or fear because we feel powerless to create change or improvement.

Are you plagued with emotional suffering?

Struggling with depression, anxiety, negative emotions, inner criticism, fear, or feeling stuck and unable to make positive changes?

What if I told you that most suffering is a choice?

Life's circumstances don't cause us to suffer; it's a state we enter when feeling stuck and don't see a solution. Pain is inevitable, a part of the human experience, but suffering is optional - we can do something about it!

“Pain is unavoidable, a part of the human experience, but suffering is optional - we can do something about it!”

Here's what I mean...

Pain is a natural aspect of life; we all encounter it sometimes. People die, relationships can be tumultuous or end, we lose jobs and receive health diagnoses we don't like - these all cause us pain and sometimes fear. The distinction between pain and suffering lies in how long we dwell in the pain and our mindset throughout the experience.

Suffering begins when we dwell in pain or fear because we feel powerless to create change or improvement.

To end suffering, we must take action to create change. Creating change in our lives is always an option; suffering remains optional.

Ever heard of "Learned Helplessness"? It's when people perceive themselves as powerless and incapable of controlling their lives, despite attainable solutions. It stems from three belief categories:

Permanence - when someone believes their problems are permanent and they can't eliminate the problem, that there is no solution or relief. Hope and happiness are lost, people take on depression, and suffering sets in. 

Pervasive - when someone believes that one problem is dominating their life, that problem permeates every area of their life, and that their life is now the problem. 

Personal - when someone believes the problem resides within them, their mistaken belief that they cannot change is linked to a reduced likelihood of resolving it.

The key here is to determine why you are suffering. After figuring out why you're suffering, decide to take responsibility, own it, and decide you are done with suffering and want to create positive change in your life. And then do what it takes to create change to experience a transformation.

The key is to understand the cause of your suffering, take responsibility for it, and choose to stop suffering by committing to positive change for transformation.

Sending love to you,