Suffering In Marriage?

Why do people who do extraordinary things, like Nelson Mandela, often endure immense suffering? One thing is for sure: Suffering has a way of molding us into otherworldly forces of nature that create massive positive change in humanity. Suffering also fosters resilience and growth.

Personally, the people who have hurt me the most were spiritual guides in disguise - they came into my life to teach me invaluable lessons. Even abusive people - they strengthened me, molded me, pushed me, taught me a resilience I couldn't learn anywhere else, and I learned the power of comeback. My most hurtful experiences are some of my greatest learned lessons in life.

In marriage and relationships, we inevitably hurt each other, sometimes profoundly. However, forgiveness is crucial. It benefits both you and the person you're forgiving, offering a gift of healing. Failing to forgive and holding onto bitterness is toxic, impacting mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health. Forgiveness fosters growth.

We naturally aspire to improve, but our actions reflect our current level of maturity, consciousness, emotional intelligence, and abilities. Rather than judging, strive to understand your spouse's feelings and behavior. This understanding can lead to solutions.

Understanding people can be challenging, especially when emotions run high. To foster clarity and problem-solving, eliminate feelings through meditation, prayer, or exercise.

Embrace suffering (just don't sit in it too long), learn from it, and use it as a catalyst for personal growth, allowing you to create a better marriage and life.

You can blame and judge your spouse, but it's essential to realize that everyone does their best at any moment. If they could do better, they likely would.

Love one another,

“Suffering has a way of molding us into otherworldly forces of nature that create positive change in humanity.”